Emergence Personality Theory - How We Find Wounds

What I am about to show you is the twelve categories of risky questions with which I find peoples' wounds. Straight to the heart, definitely risky, but powerfully charged questions. Know their power lies in the fact that the person can be symptom free and they still find wounds.

Now without further adieu (and setting aside for another time the theory which underlies these 12 categories), here they are. My twelve core strategies for locating wounds.

[ 1] Vivid Recall of a Painful Event: The First Category of Block Markers

[ 2] An Inability to Picture a Common Childhood Event: The Second Category of Block Markers

[ 3] Hating an Ordinary Life Event: The Third Category of Block Markers

[ 4] Under-reacting to a Loving Event: The Fourth Category of Block Markers

[ 5] Under-reacting to a Violent Event: The Fifth Category of Block Markers

[ 6] Having No Choice: The Sixth Category of Block Markers

[ 7] Feeling Urgency During Ordinary Life Events: The 7th Category of Block Markers

[ 8] Feeling Abandoned During Ordinary Life Events: The 8th Category of Block Markers

[ 9] Feeling Trapped During Nonviolent Life Events: The 9th Category of Block Markers

[10] Repeatedly Making the Same Painful Error: The 10th Category of Block Markers

[11] Feeling Markedly Older or Younger During Ordinary Life Events: The 11th Category of Block Markers

[12] Feeling Compelled to Do Ordinary Acts: The 12th Category of Block Markers

Let's start with the obvious; what is a Block Marker?

A Block Marker is a sort of mental pointer to a time during which you were once startled into blankness by a painful event. After which you have a sort of psychological hole in your ability to picture which functions a lot like a pot hole in a road. Literally, we all have these blank spots in our minds. Psychologically speaking, anyway. More important, these holes are the single most direct way to find our injuries.

Am I being too vague? Let me try an example. When I was a boy, two little girls in my class were standing in front of a store on a busy highway. A tractor trailer lost it's brakes and hit and killed one of them right in front of the other. No surprise that the little girl who was six at the time could not remember this happening. But because of what happened, she also had a blocked ability to picture tractor trailers. She literally could not bring one to mind ever when asked to make one up.

Of course, most of us will never have an event this terrible happen to us. Even so, we all have certain things we have lost the ability to visualize. Psychological pot holes in the roads in our minds so to speak. Moreover, this blocked ability to even imagine these things is the one thing all human wounds have in common. We cannot picture something about the event. Even if we know with certainty this thing happened to us. And even if we are asked to simply make this thing up.

Still confused? What I'm saying is, while human beings, by nature, prefer to use logic to explore their suffering, real healing lies not in logic but rather in exploring these visual blank spots. The places wherein we can no longer picture life even when asked to make it up. Ironically, we never notice the significance of this inability let alone that it is the single most important feature in all of talk therapy.

Know you can explore this visual paradox in depth by visiting my site at http://theemergencesite.com/Therapy/LearningAsATherapy-Wk070319.htm.

For now it is enough to know that these twelve categories of lost abilities to picture life exist. And that they are simply the best way to locate mental / emotional injuries.